Grief and Happiness

Our need to show other people how strong we are at times can be our greatest weakness in a world that is becoming increasingly distant, polarised and lonely. 

Grief as we know it can be such a heavy thing. We feel it within our souls but most of the time there isn’t any tangible way of explaining it to others. The longing for something that did not happen; the misunderstanding of something that should or should not have been said, are all thoughts that pop into our heads from time to time. The world teaches you to numb the pain with distractions, with diets and physical regimes and while some of those may work to a great extent, very few talk about the psychological work involved in overcoming grief. The fact that happiness and grief can co-exist in a person simultaneously may seem like an anomaly, but experience tells us otherwise.

Sometimes our desire to hide our perceived weakness can hurt those close to us in ways we cannot fathom. Unintentionally we can cause severe pain to those who want nothing but the best for us which ultimately boils down to accepting every emotion that we feel in its most raw form.

Acceptance is the key to a blissful life in my opinion but something that many people struggle with in a world designed to tell you that you need to be more than what you already are. Put out more content, earn more money; date someone even prettier than your ex but when does it all stop? Many teachers come to show us a path but ultimately only patience and genuine work can help us get the best of ourselves or rather accept it without trying to downgrade or show off.